When is the Best Time for Marriage Counseling?

Hi, I’m Angela, I have a husband with bipolar 2 disorder, my kids have ADHD, and I myself have struggled with depression—YOU’RE NOT ALONE! This week’s mental health tips ask the question: when is the best time for marriage counseling?

Most of the time couples seek out marriage counseling in a time of crisis, or out of pure desperation. They feel like they’ve tried everything they know how to do and they’re at the end of their rope. Honestly, the best time to work on your marriage is when you don’t need to!  What? That seems counter intuitive. Everyone has heard the saying, “If it ain’t broke don’t fix it.” So why should marriage counseling be any different?

You’re the most open to tuning up your marriage when there’s no crisis or “fire” to put out.

Working with a counselor, coach, or mentor who encourages better communication skills, and how to resolve conflict is worth the investment of time and money.  Spending time to refine skills that benefit marriage, improves your connection and satisfaction for the long haul.  Plus what you learn and practice will get passed onto the next generation in your kids and grandkids.

The couples that succeed the most are those who keep learning about relationship skills and don’t ignore the little stuff that can bump them off course.  With the demands and expectations placed upon the family system in our culture every couple would benefit from a counselor or coach to keep them on track.

You hire a dentist, a doctor, a mechanic, and other professionals to sustain your life and belongings please consider the health of your relationship.  Marriage is the foundation for the family and the family the foundation for the community. If you want strong relationships start with your marriage.

And remember what it says in Ephesians 4:2…


Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Ephesians 4:2

Marriage allows us the opportunity to love well—the question is—will we love as Jesus loves us?


What are your thoughts on premarital counseling? Comment below, I’d love to hear from you. And don’t miss the great resources in the notes below that will show you how to connect with premarital counseling tools and counselors.

A big thank you to counselors Dan Bates, Gil Stuart, and Dr. Kristen White for consulting with me on this series, along with His Heart Foundation for supporting this channel. If you want more in-depth mental health information for you and those you love check out mentalhealth.academy today.

Connect to a premarital counselor

Request A Counselor Referral

Recommended Resources:

Don’t feel like you need to pick just one! Consult with a counselor to see your best fit.

Premarital Counseling Tools

  1. Prepare and Enrich

The number one premarital assessment for 35 years. It’s best to go through this with a counselor or trained facilitator.

  1. SYMBIS – Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts

The world’s more practical marriage assessment. The website can connect you with a facilitator in your area.

  1. Prologue—Start Marriage Here

A free online program designed by Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages


Hold Me Tight—Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Created for Connection

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

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