Today we’re gonna talk about ADHD and Anger—What Parents Can Do to Help

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Emotional dysregulation is commonly seen in both children and adults with ADHD. It impacts how they interact at home, at school, and in their chosen careers. It affects all emotions, but today we’re going to specifically address anger. Let’s look at some ways we can be intentional verses reactive when dealing with ADHD and anger.

  1. When an outburst happens don’t add fuel to the fire. The more you engage the bigger the situation becomes. As long as everyone is safe it’s fine to separate until things deescalate. You might say, “Things are getting out of hand. Let’s go to separate rooms until things are calm again.”
  2. Name the emotion. “Wow, you seem really angry.” “Your face is red. Are you angry?” It might not seem important at the time, but it’s vital to be calm and identify how your child is coming across because they might not even realize what’s happening in the moment.
  3. Identify the triggers. When does your child become angry the most often? Are they tired? Hungry? Is it a certain time of day? Do certain relationships trigger angry emotions? Identifying the triggers can help you talk about your child’s needs and help them recognize lhow to meet their own needs.
  4. Express empathy. I know this isn’t easy when you just want the meltdown to end, but empathy is the key to building relationships that are authentic, imperfect, and based in unconditional love.

Anger, particularly in Christian culture, can be seen as an unacceptable or a “bad” emotion that should be shut down the minute that we see it crop up. But that actually isn’t scriptural at all.


Ephesians 4:26 says, “Be angry, and do not sin…” The anger is not the sin, it’s how we choose to act upon the emotion that makes all the difference.


How to Really Love Your Angry Child by D. Ross Campbell 

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