Last week we went over 5 Things NOT to Say to Someone with Anxiety, so if you missed that video be sure to check it out.

Sometimes as the friends and family members of those experiencing anxiety we feel a sense of desperation. We want them to find peace and freedom from this heartache. But our job is not to “fix” our loved ones, but to walk with them through these difficulties.

Today we’re going to talk about five things TO say to someone with anxiety.

I’m Angela Howard, my passion is to break the stigma of mental illness among fellow Christians. I’m here to help you live a more purposeful life with God, and with one another. Don’t forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel so you can get the first updates of new content.

5 Things TO Say to Someone with Anxiety

  1. “I’m here if you want to talk.” This means you will listen without judgment and without trying to convince them that their feelings are unreasonable.
  2. “Take your time.” This world functions at breakneck speed and the last thing that someone with anxiety needs to worry about is whether or not you think they’re an inconvenience because of their struggle.
  3. “Do you want a hug?” The gift of presence is pretty amazing. You’re not telling them they need to do anything but simply offering affection and love.
  4. “You’re not a burden.” People need to know that reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Here’s your chance to show true grace.
  5. “It’s not your fault.” Mental illness isn’t a choice. It’s not a sin. It’s not a character flaw. Reminding the person who’s struggling that you know that there’s no easy “fix” removes shame and condemnation.


Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29 (NIV)


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